Archive - February 2011
Legal definitions are a fun thing. Depending on the version of the same dictionary, two words can take on completely different meanings. The most famous, and therefore most used, legal dictionary in the United States and Great Britain (and for that matter, the English speaking world) is Black’s. You’ll hear it mentioned in nearly every legal brief and it’s on the tip of every patriot tongue. Sadly, many of you lack a copy.
In severe cases of Stockholm Syndrome in relationships, the victim may have difficulty leaving the abuser and may actually feel the abusive situation is their fault. In law enforcement situations, the victim may actually feel the arrest of their partner for physical abuse or battering is their fault. Some women will allow their children to be removed by child protective agencies rather than give up the relationship with their abuser. As they take the perspective of the abuser, the children are at fault – the children complained about the situation, the children brought the attention of authorities to the home, and the children put the adult relationship at risk.
It’s important to understand the components of Stockholm Syndrome as they relate to abusive and controlling relationships. Once the syndrome is understood, it’s easier to understand why victims support, love, and even defend their abusers and controllers.
n the Golden Oldie Blog of last Wednesday, I mentioned that “New Topics” were coming. Among those topics are “mindset” and “life-skills training”. Aaron put up the audiobook; THE FOUR HOUR WORKWEEK. Many people are commenting to me privately about this book and how it is radically changing their mindset about business. If you haven’t downloaded it; please do.
decided to re-edit a GOLDEN OLDIE …a presentation that I did 3 years ago. But, before we get to it; we’re gonna do a little V FOR VENDETTA routine and “take some time to have a little chat” (rather than merely a “blog”, whatever that actually is). This is the point where I should say “you’ will probably see and hear some things that you have already seen, heard, and read
How can this behavior be possible? We are all rational at some level, aren’t we? We all have a mind equipped to recognize patterns, do we not? Human beings attempt to recognize patterns in everything, even where there are no patterns to be found. The problem is, patterns are only recognizable with sufficient data.
I find it funny that people use phrases like, “I don’t have the money,” or “I can’t afford…” These phrases tell me everything I need to know about the person using them. One of the biggest obstacles every person must overcome is the thoughts someone else put into their head. Having read nearly every self-help author and listened to hundreds of personal / life coaching gurus and new-agers I’ve picked up a pattern.